I read what you're saying as being less about "care-bearing" than about inauthenticity. I don't think I would ever claim that Reform Judaism in general, or what the Chav does in specific are "inauthentic" or "not Jewish." There are lots and lots of Orthodox who will declare anything non-Orthodox inauthentic and so on (see the stupid requirements on double-conversion for Jews emigrating to Israel, for example). But that wasn't what I was getting at, or trying to say.

What I think I might need to say more clearly is that this particular revolutionary take on the traditional Saturday and bar mitzvah service took the form of care-bearing and as a result alienated me because it removed core elements of Jewishness I was raised with.

Hrm. The perils of telling a story publicly for the first time. I seem to get more wrong than right.

Thanks for taking the time to type all that out - I appreciate the input.