Yeah, I saw the camera cut to her. That's part of what I find problematic. I think Joss wants us to realize that the line is racist and the woman's reaction shot shows that. So... we empathize with her and not with the hero who is just now getting his girl? WTF? Joss could just as easily have cut the line. I give him no points for leaving it in and giving a person of color a single soundless reaction shot.

As for the modern terms I do not recall them. I'd have to have the DVD to be sure. A couple of them stuck out at me as i was watching, but I didn't take notes.