Which is also a violation of the restraining order, actually.

That is not universally true. At one point I was asked to act as such a communication third party between a couple involved in an unpleasant divorce(*). There are other situations I'm aware of where third parties are necessary for couples with children, etc. Also, times change. What was the norm 10 years ago is probably not the norm today.

(*) no violence there but a concern about shared finances. She didn't want him emptying their joint bank accounts, selling off shared household property, etc.