I think we're probably going to continue to disagree about whether or not Scott's repetition things he knows to be untrue (because he has been told several times at this point that Mink was the only holder of credible information) is a lie or is just "being wrong".
There are reasons why you concede points you don't believe in courtrooms or in arguments/negotiation and I see this as a point you can concede with no loss and with the gain of re-focusing things on the important question, which is, not to put it too bluntly, WTF??
Hm. I think this, right here, is a point where we're operating at cross purposes.
One of my goals, here and in life, is to say nothing that is not true, and to not allow myself to be represented in ways that are not true.
I feel that conceding a point I don't believe is a form of lying, and I'm unwilling to do so. My insistence on the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but may make me difficult to negotiate with at times, but it's also very important to me and my character. Starting to not challenge lies about me - especially now - is not only hurtful, but also potentially damaging in my court case.
I agree that WTF is the important question. I also feel like I've been letting myself get shit on kinda a lot - the last few days are not the only times I've had to contend with bad stuff and comport myself politely regardless at great cost to me. I've done a lot of fading back so things get focused on his behaviors and not on me. Because you don't have to like me in order to agree that rape is bad.
At the same time, I think that makes people forget that I am the survivor of two violent crimes at Judah's hands that traumatized me deeply, and that these conversations are difficult and painful and I have a right to protect myself during them. Part of protecting myself is not letting the lies proliferate.
I'm doing my best to disappear myself so we can focus on the very important issue of community safety, but there's a certain point past which I can't disappear any further than I already have. I'm doing my best to balance all of this, but I may be doing too well, in that it may not be sufficiently apparent that I am in these discussions at great cost to myself.
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There are reasons why you concede points you don't believe in courtrooms or in arguments/negotiation and I see this as a point you can concede with no loss and with the gain of re-focusing things on the important question, which is, not to put it too bluntly, WTF??
Hm. I think this, right here, is a point where we're operating at cross purposes.
One of my goals, here and in life, is to say nothing that is not true, and to not allow myself to be represented in ways that are not true.
I feel that conceding a point I don't believe is a form of lying, and I'm unwilling to do so. My insistence on the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but may make me difficult to negotiate with at times, but it's also very important to me and my character. Starting to not challenge lies about me - especially now - is not only hurtful, but also potentially damaging in my court case.
I agree that WTF is the important question. I also feel like I've been letting myself get shit on kinda a lot - the last few days are not the only times I've had to contend with bad stuff and comport myself politely regardless at great cost to me. I've done a lot of fading back so things get focused on his behaviors and not on me. Because you don't have to like me in order to agree that rape is bad.
At the same time, I think that makes people forget that I am the survivor of two violent crimes at Judah's hands that traumatized me deeply, and that these conversations are difficult and painful and I have a right to protect myself during them. Part of protecting myself is not letting the lies proliferate.
I'm doing my best to disappear myself so we can focus on the very important issue of community safety, but there's a certain point past which I can't disappear any further than I already have. I'm doing my best to balance all of this, but I may be doing too well, in that it may not be sufficiently apparent that I am in these discussions at great cost to myself.