(I am writing this comment anonymously, even though I *do* know many of the parties involved, because I do not think I can participate in this discussion without someone pulling some kind of "if you're not with me you're AGAINST ME" crap, and I'm just nhft.)
I am deeply uncomfortable with this, not because it is wrong in this particular situation, but because I have been on the receiving end of "you need to tolerate my abusive and hurtful behavior because I have such a deeply traumatic past that I can't help myself" ... and my experience is that it is an excuse that can be twisted by pretty much anyone into pressure to forgive pretty much anything, up to and including physical and sexual assault.
Regardless of what I have experienced in the past, and what emotional scars I am carrying because of it, that shouldn't be a blank check to do whatever I want and never acknowledge the consequences of my actions.
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I am deeply uncomfortable with this, not because it is wrong in this particular situation, but because I have been on the receiving end of "you need to tolerate my abusive and hurtful behavior because I have such a deeply traumatic past that I can't help myself" ... and my experience is that it is an excuse that can be twisted by pretty much anyone into pressure to forgive pretty much anything, up to and including physical and sexual assault.
Regardless of what I have experienced in the past, and what emotional scars I am carrying because of it, that shouldn't be a blank check to do whatever I want and never acknowledge the consequences of my actions.