I'm not saying "I should have acted differently", but "I should acknowledge that the way I acted was painful for other people, and they're going to react to that pain in ways I can't control".
Whether my actions were justified, or whether I could have done (or should have been expected to do) any better are much, much thornier questions, and are really a question for the individual's conscience and self-knowledge. I don't live in Shira, or Scott, or Judah's brains, and I have no idea who could be expected to do better in this situation.
I suspect, though, that both Shira and Scott would be having a very different, much less hostile conversation if either one of them were able to acknowledge the other person's emotional reality right now.
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I'm not saying "I should have acted differently", but "I should acknowledge that the way I acted was painful for other people, and they're going to react to that pain in ways I can't control".
Whether my actions were justified, or whether I could have done (or should have been expected to do) any better are much, much thornier questions, and are really a question for the individual's conscience and self-knowledge. I don't live in Shira, or Scott, or Judah's brains, and I have no idea who could be expected to do better in this situation.
I suspect, though, that both Shira and Scott would be having a very different, much less hostile conversation if either one of them were able to acknowledge the other person's emotional reality right now.