I don't know. I've been reading some of this from afar, and a number of people seem to expect that everyone should be able to make good decisions on the spot. I know I'm not that person, and I know in the past I've offended people by not "making the right decision" immediately. It doesn't seem to matter if I make the right decision after a couple hours of deliberating, but that somehow by needing that thinking time, I'm obviously not with them, or something.
I don't know if that came into play here at all, but it does seem like there was an immediacy in just about everyone's situation & my own bias suspects that may have played a part.
I understand your generosity of not wanting to say when someone must speak up. You may be better at making spur-of-the-moment decisions than I am. I confess I would feel very up-against-the-wall and second guess myself & not want to commit myself even if there was an obvious right answer if someone needed it immediately (I am not the person to take to order food from any place with a "hurry up" atmosphere and a menu >3 items, even if all-but-one contain items I won't eat. I need time to think).
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I don't know if that came into play here at all, but it does seem like there was an immediacy in just about everyone's situation & my own bias suspects that may have played a part.
I understand your generosity of not wanting to say when someone must speak up. You may be better at making spur-of-the-moment decisions than I am. I confess I would feel very up-against-the-wall and second guess myself & not want to commit myself even if there was an obvious right answer if someone needed it immediately (I am not the person to take to order food from any place with a "hurry up" atmosphere and a menu >3 items, even if all-but-one contain items I won't eat. I need time to think).