I slept with 7 people before I graduated before I graduated high school. I knew that 2 of them had been abused by family members when i was with them. I have since learned that 5 of my first 7 lovers had been abused. Since then, the rate is about the same; if you are one of Richard's lovers; the likelihood of you being an abuse survivor is around 2 in 3. It has been pointed out that many abuse survivors have certain behavioral patterns and that perhaps I am drawn to them. It has also been pointed out by many of my ex's that I am one of the few people they felt safe sharing this information with*. IE: that my Ex's other lovers didn't know. It has made me very vigilant when around children these days. I watch for the signs. And thank Crawling Chaos that I have not seen the signs in any of the children I interact with regularly these days.
*It has also been pointed out that I have some of the signs; and given that my childhood was... more interesting than most, it is not unlikely that I have blocked somethings out in my head as well.
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Date: 2011-12-29 08:23 pm (UTC)It has been pointed out that many abuse survivors have certain behavioral patterns and that perhaps I am drawn to them. It has also been pointed out by many of my ex's that I am one of the few people they felt safe sharing this information with*. IE: that my Ex's other lovers didn't know.
It has made me very vigilant when around children these days. I watch for the signs. And thank Crawling Chaos that I have not seen the signs in any of the children I interact with regularly these days.
*It has also been pointed out that I have some of the signs; and given that my childhood was... more interesting than most, it is not unlikely that I have blocked somethings out in my head as well.