You did say that the threat to call the police was "imaginary". (I think you also said he was lying about it, but I could be wrong.)
I understand the basis of your saying that this was not a threat. But the thing he interpreted as a threat exists, you knew that it existed, and it seems to me you must have recognized that it was the utterance he was referring to. Which means to me that saying it was imaginary is somewhere between lying and gaslighting. Given your feelings about truth, I'm sure you have a different read on that.
And the assertion that the police were going to come seems to be the emotional core of this issue for Scott -- far from the core for you, I know. I've been known to come a bit unstuck when someone tells me that the core of a disagreement I'm having is "imaginary".
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Date: 2014-07-10 11:34 pm (UTC)I understand the basis of your saying that this was not a threat. But the thing he interpreted as a threat exists, you knew that it existed, and it seems to me you must have recognized that it was the utterance he was referring to. Which means to me that saying it was imaginary is somewhere between lying and gaslighting. Given your feelings about truth, I'm sure you have a different read on that.
And the assertion that the police were going to come seems to be the emotional core of this issue for Scott -- far from the core for you, I know. I've been known to come a bit unstuck when someone tells me that the core of a disagreement I'm having is "imaginary".