The free pass business is a derailment. I do not see the basic minimum respect and care she is due as asking for a free pass, and that is all I see her asking for from her community when she even has a fricking restraining order backing her up.
And it's not just about Song. It is about every other subject of harassment feeling safe and cared for in your community who may not be as articulate as Song or have as clear cut a case because other women who have been creeped on by this same abuser have come forward and make this case pretty clear, that not banning him from parties is a mistake. And when we see her being treated this way, we know we haven't a chance, and will not set foot in such an unsafe place. It's really pretty clear cut here, and these situations often aren't so clear cut.
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Date: 2014-07-12 07:05 pm (UTC)And it's not just about Song. It is about every other subject of harassment feeling safe and cared for in your community who may not be as articulate as Song or have as clear cut a case because other women who have been creeped on by this same abuser have come forward and make this case pretty clear, that not banning him from parties is a mistake. And when we see her being treated this way, we know we haven't a chance, and will not set foot in such an unsafe place. It's really pretty clear cut here, and these situations often aren't so clear cut.