Questions from Beah
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drwex1) Tell me about your families - of origin, of choice, etc. How have they shifted over the years, and what has the shifting taught you?
That's an essay answer. Origin family is your typical white liberal Jewish suburban upper-middle class east coast bundle, with some twists. Major shifts have included parents' divorce my freshman year of undergrad (too late by at least a decade), my brother deciding to become a monster, excuse me "born again Christian".
Chosen family is a slowly morphing pack. I seem to be moderately terrible at getting and keeping friends. Lovers have come and gone - the longest in there was six years and we're still friendly. I used to dream of multi-adult households, but never found people with whom I could make it work. The most obvious shift in both was![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
sweetmmeblue's and my choice to get married and have kids. We're pretty family-centric these days, partly out of necessity.
2) Is there something you desperately want (not an Ipod Nano or other tangible object, something for your *life*) that you don't already have? What are you doing to get it?
See my answers tofraterrisus's questions. Clarity and motivation are the two things I most lack. Clarity I'm working on, particularly trying to understand my emotional responses and such. There will likely be more postings on that topic. Motivation - eh, if I was motivated I wouldn't need to do things to motivate myself, would I?
3) Does your life have themes? Like, lessons that keep recurring, or passions that have followed you through the years? What are they? How do you feel about them?
That's another excellent question, probably really answerable only in essay form. I don't think my life has themes, so much as I think it has episodes, or chapters. Perhaps that's too soap-opera of me, but it's how I think of things. There are chapters about grad school and about fatherhood and about lots of things. And they're not particularly linear by any means. Lessons, not so much. Once in a while the Universe Speaks To Me and I try hard to listen. And then there are things that accrete from experience, which I expect happens to anyone who survives this long. Oh, and insights. There's stuff you know because it happened, and you realize it happened to everyone else who passed this life-point before you and it will probably happen to most of the people you know who haven't yet passed it, and trying to tell people to whom it hasn't happened is a little like describing colors to a blind person. But there you are. I used to feel compelled to communicate; these days I just settle for bemusement because I know no one will listen and so why annoy the pig?
That's an essay answer. Origin family is your typical white liberal Jewish suburban upper-middle class east coast bundle, with some twists. Major shifts have included parents' divorce my freshman year of undergrad (too late by at least a decade), my brother deciding to become a monster, excuse me "born again Christian".
Chosen family is a slowly morphing pack. I seem to be moderately terrible at getting and keeping friends. Lovers have come and gone - the longest in there was six years and we're still friendly. I used to dream of multi-adult households, but never found people with whom I could make it work. The most obvious shift in both was
sweetmmeblue's and my choice to get married and have kids. We're pretty family-centric these days, partly out of necessity.2) Is there something you desperately want (not an Ipod Nano or other tangible object, something for your *life*) that you don't already have? What are you doing to get it?
See my answers to
fraterrisus's questions. Clarity and motivation are the two things I most lack. Clarity I'm working on, particularly trying to understand my emotional responses and such. There will likely be more postings on that topic. Motivation - eh, if I was motivated I wouldn't need to do things to motivate myself, would I?3) Does your life have themes? Like, lessons that keep recurring, or passions that have followed you through the years? What are they? How do you feel about them?
That's another excellent question, probably really answerable only in essay form. I don't think my life has themes, so much as I think it has episodes, or chapters. Perhaps that's too soap-opera of me, but it's how I think of things. There are chapters about grad school and about fatherhood and about lots of things. And they're not particularly linear by any means. Lessons, not so much. Once in a while the Universe Speaks To Me and I try hard to listen. And then there are things that accrete from experience, which I expect happens to anyone who survives this long. Oh, and insights. There's stuff you know because it happened, and you realize it happened to everyone else who passed this life-point before you and it will probably happen to most of the people you know who haven't yet passed it, and trying to tell people to whom it hasn't happened is a little like describing colors to a blind person. But there you are. I used to feel compelled to communicate; these days I just settle for bemusement because I know no one will listen and so why annoy the pig?
