The state of the state

[drwex]

(some of this is redundant with email; some is new.)

We have had many people visiting this past weekend. I appreciate the time and support more than I can express.

Unfortunately we were not able to make minyan on Sunday night. If you are able to help with that on Wednesday or Thursday evenings please let me know.

I have not really processed this new reality. I keep talking about my mother in the present tense. I'm not too concerned about this - things will happen in their time. The best analogy for my status at the moment is this: I feel like a glass that is full to the brim with liquid. So long as nothing jostles me all is well. When I'm jostled, things... spill.

I'm focusing my "having my shit together"-ness on work and family, though Pygment has been doing an amazeballs job of managing the latter. I still can't get it together enough to plan anything much. That, too, is OK. I am managing to keep myself fed, washed, and properly dressed. I'm on a business trip for an overnight tonight and have a week-long trip next week, which consumes a ridiculous amount of planning energy but there it is.

I am, quite unabashedly, trying to remember and draw on the lessons of taura_g's processing. No schedules for grief, no shame in talking or not talking. Asking is hard, but good for me.

Comments

[chienne-folle.livejournal.com]

Thinking of you and wishing you well.

[drwex]

Thank you.

[weegoddess.livejournal.com]

It was really good to see you yesterday. You are dealing with some HARD STUFF. It's ok to be self-gentle. And not to be discouraged if you feel like you aren't living up to some sort of standard.

Hugs when/if helpful.

[drwex]

Likewise it was good to see you guys.

[pierceheart.livejournal.com]

Hugs.

There are no schedules.

[drwex]

Thanks.

[hammercock.livejournal.com]

I'm solo parent on duty on Wednesday evening, so that might not be the best time to drop by, but maybe I could on Thursday evening, if that would help (assuming I count for minyan purposes).

*hug*

[drwex]

Yes you would count and we'd be happy to have you visit regardless. Right now our minyan count for Wednesday is higher than Thursday but that might change. I'll let you know.

Of course Motik

[sweetmmeblue.livejournal.com]

MWAH!

[candle-light.livejournal.com]

Marc & I can help make a minyan on Thursday night. Let me know if you need us and when.

[drwex]

It's looking like we might be able to do minyan on Thursday. I'd like to do it as close to 7 as possible so people can organize their evenings if need be. You two would be possible 9th and 10th, but i have to confirm with other people.

[drwex]

It's looking like we might be able to do minyan on Thursday. I'd like to do it as close to 7 as possible so people can organize their evenings if need be. You two would be possible 9th and 10th, but i have to confirm with other people.

[candle-light.livejournal.com]

Marc's car broke this afternoon, so logistics just got very complicated for us. At best we can only provide one person for tomorrow. I'm sorry. Hopefully you can still achieve a minyan.

[drwex]

If you can't make it then that's the way of the world. We're hovering in the 8-11 range depending how the dice fall.

[drwex]

ETA: Ben Levy appears likely to come and is willing to give one or both of you a ride if that would make things easier. If you'd like to take him up on the offer drop him a mail please.

[dpolicar]

Yes, yes, yes.
Thanks for the update.
Thanks for asking for things.

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

Do you need someone for tonight?

[drwex]

Thank you for the offer. At the moment we expect only general visitors tonight and minyan should have enough people for tomorrow. We would be happy to see you if you decided to make a social call.